Matthew 5: 38-39 NKJV “You have heard that it was said, eye for an eye, and tooth for tooth. But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also”
As we deal with people we will get hurt. It’s a fact of life, and the quicker we learn this, the more likely we will be able to deal with it. The solution in this is not to isolate yourself or not trust people. When you do get hurt, the response should never be to get even. Attempting to get even is a violation of the commandment of love that has been given to every Christian. It is a selfish action driven by an unforgiving heart.
Jesus taught us a few things about how to deal with our enemies, or those who despitefully use us, saying to love them (Matt.5:44), and the Apostle Paul says to give place for God’s wrath (Rom.12:19). So what’s the lesson? 1) Do not seek to revenge evil done to you. 2) Continue to love and keep doing good to people who continue to persecute or hurt you (it does not mean tolerate the evil being done to you).
If it’s a spousal relationship in which there is physically abuse, it will be wise to separate, with a view to work on the problem from a distance. This is not proposing divorce or separation to get involved with someone else.
Do you still harbor the hurt of being mistreated in a relationship? Don’t seek to get your way. First choose to forgive. Forgiveness has nothing to do with how you feel or your emotions. It’s an action taken because God’s word commands it (Mark 11:24). It takes trusting in God’s word, and having a willingness to obey to reap the rewards. Forgiveness releases you from the pain and hurt that’s being experienced, it’s an antidote to the poison of hurt and resentment. It’s the key that unlocks you from the prison of hurt.
Scriptures to Meditate: Rom.12:17-21, Mark 11:22-24, Matt.5:43-48, Heb.12:14-15